Tuesday, 15 March 2011

Thinking aloud.

I read a blog today whose author was commenting about how few female christian bloggers there are in the UK. I'm amazed. I know that in the US every other christian mum (I can't write it with an 'o', it just doesn't work for me!) seems to have her own blog. Why are we so different in the UK? is it a bad thing?!?

I don't think this is a christian blog. I don't have an inspiring text at the top or mention God every time I blog. I'm not even sure what this blog is for. Not to evangelise the world, or even to entertain people. More of an online diary. I am pretty sure no-one reads it! 
Perhaps I should be more 'religious'; but it doesn't come naturally. I can talk to God, usually not very coherently, but find it hard to talk about him. Mostly because he is such a big subject that anything I say is likely to be wrong, as I can only see a tiny bit of him (like the blind man who touched the elephants tail and decided it was a snake) 
When I say I can talk to God I mean I usually just get his attention and throw pictures at him and say "what are you going to do about it God? Can you make it better?" or "What do you want me to ask you to do about this one?" In particular when it comes to my kids I'm often afraid to pray. 
Two things I want to ask him about them - first that they will learn to love him, and second that they will be well - and that Pup in particular be healed. I've never heard of anyone being healed of CF; funny how God does not appear to heal people of genetic conditions. And I haven't got a millionth of a mustardseeds worth of faith that he will be healed. So I don't ask very often. And I am not one of these people that can beg God for years to do one thing, and still believe it will happen. And I can't believe that his healing or otherwise depends on my propensity to pray - or not.
I should stop this stream of consciousness stuff. I really should be molishing a wardrobe (opposite to demolishing - we have our own language in this house!) It's for Pup who is at school. Boy 2 is glued to the TV for a change. he is usually racing around the house or hassling my every spare moment. I haven't written much about Tigs; how he delights and maddens me every day. How bright and energetic and beautiful and wicked he is. Must get round to it. I must write the story of how we got both boys, I need to record it for their sakes. In my copious free time.

Monday, 14 March 2011

Japan ... and a kitten

Who isn't thinking or talking about that desparate country at the moment?

Isn't it at the back of your mind all the time, as life goes on as normal here?

It is so strange to me that we can be living the same old mundane life, but another wealthy 'civilized' country on the other side of Earth is falling apart? It amazes me that we heard about the earthquake within minutes, and were seeing pictures, videos almost as soon. On the news it's "2000 bodies washed ashore", "Nuclear plant going into meltdown", "Thousands left without power, food or water in the freezing cold" while I sit here and sup tea, having put my kids to bed. It feels surreal. Can't shut out other nations tragedies these days. They are forced down your throat by the media. And it is probably good that we do know; we need to know, we need to care.

There have been so many tragedies recently, and nothing I can do to help seems adequate. If I sold everything I had and rushed out there to volunteer help; would it really make any significant difference? So it's so easy to say "No, it wouldn't be more than a drop in the ocean of need out there. So maybe it's not worth helping".

But it must be worth helping. But I don't know how. How to give, who to give to (which needy situation? which charity?) How much to give? Give money - or something else? And I find the impossibility of choosing paralyses me, and I don't give. Well not enough anyway. And I'm not sure what to pray for except "God please help!" Boy 1 prayed for the earthquake to stop tonight. I wish I could pray so easily for the tragedy to STOP.

A friend came for coffee this morning and we talked kids, and the usual domestic worries. We analysed our children, their schools, all the usual mum concerns. We didn't mention the rest of the world. We discussed this little fellow.
he is still nameless
I am incredibly excited about our new adoption. He's coming to live with us in a weeks time. Is it wrong to be so happy in anticipation of such a little thing (and he is so tiny...), while the Arab world is in a state of bloody flux, Japan is grieving, food and petrol prices are 'spiralling out of control' (if  I every use that phrase again pleas shoot me, I hate it) I don't think it's wrong, any more wrong that enjoying the recent much longed for sunshine, the daffodils coming up, the local blackbird who is in excellent voice. Still feel guilty about it though. But I am going to enjoy it all!
Quince in flower
God is in his heaven.... all is not wrong with the world.

Wednesday, 9 March 2011


We saw Pup's teacher the other day about his school individual education plan (IEP); he has this special plan in place because he has a few issues at school, and needs extra support. Teacher says he is "doing very well academically" despite being a big handful in class, not doing any work and not being able to write legibly yet. This left me rather confused!
He always comes over as bright, but he isn't too good at listening, he'd rather talk - and boy, does he talk! He's pretty good at getting over what he wants to say, although he uses ten words when two would do. We joke that he will be a politician when he grows up - he has a strong liking for rules as well as never answering a question directly, and having a fair amount of charisma. In fact most people prefer him in small doses, as he can be rather overwhelming. He isn't too good with kids his own age; although he gets on brilliantly with his little bro. Some emotional immaturity there I think. He is usually a happy and positive kid.

It's been a long road so far with him. There's a long way to go. We don't know what his future will be. Somedays I just pray that he will HAVE a future. Twenty / thirty years ago kids with Cystic Fibrosis weren't expected to live to adulthood. Now the expectation is that they will live many more years, and may enjoy good health for far longer. But there may be hard times ahead for him, years of sickness, increasing disability, maybe even transplants. He doesn't know half of what may be ahead for him. He has plans. He wants to be a teacher, and to have three kids (he doesn't want a wife, only a woman to gestate his kids for him, who can then fade quietly into the background!)
Life is often challenging for him. He doesn't enjoy eating. He lives with chronic stomach aches. He gets very fed up with the meds he has to take, the physio; with the knowledge that he has pressures on him that other kids don't.
Sometimes we forget that there is this uncertainty hanging over him. I'm glad we can forget. I'm glad he doesn't know yet. One day is soon enough.